I've almost always had this aversion to average people. I didn't want to aspire to be like everyone else. I wanted to do what felt right to me, and made me the most happy. Following the crowd just because it's the "norm" or because that's what's socially acceptable is not my dream! I'll admit, I've fallen in this trap a few times when life had me down, day dreaming about what it might be like if I could just be normal like everyone else, only to realize later how wrong I was. Being average isn't the answer to all my problems.
I've asked it before, and I'll ask it again, what is so fulfilling about becoming average?? Have we gone that far south now that this is an actual goal for people?! Who wakes up in the morning with the dream of becoming an average wife/husband, an average mom/dad, or average career woman/man? Yet people are so proud of these things! It's sad!
Here's an example of what I'm talking about, and the kind of people who drive me stark raving mad! They are the stereotypical soccer moms who drive their top of the line minivan or SUV, married to the average John Doe (who used to be the envy of every girl in high school, of course, except now he has a beer belly and looks more like a species of gorilla than a human, but soccer mom still likes to brag about him), they've got 2.5 kids and live in a newly developed suburb, in a lovely 2-story home: granite counter tops, central air, stainless steel appliances, bedrooms for each kid and a master suite complete with a soaker tub they never use, and I bet you they even got to pick the colors and carpet style! It comes with the picture perfect backyard, rolled out sod, of course, not a dandelion in sight, bark chips and tiny shaped shrubs, and an entertainment size deck complete with a BBQ. The kids are enrolled in just about every possible thing there is: karate, piano lessons, swimming, ballet, girl/boy scouts, t-ball, and of course soccer. And they probably have some type of super common religion they practice just because they were raised in it and think its a good way to bring up their kids. Because its common, not because they actually searched their souls and believe in it or anything. It's like they got a Martha Stewart package deal on life, you know? Even when bad things happen, they somehow manage to make them seem cool, like they are "down to earth" because little Aidan got diagnosed with a speech delay, and little Sophia has asthma, dad has hypertension and mom is diabetic. See? They're not perfect after all, they're average! Everybody has problems once in a while, so it's perfectly acceptable, and because it's so common, that makes it okay!
What it is about these people that drives me the most crazy is that NONE of them are thinking for themselves!!! We have billions of dollars worth of advertisements in our world, from billboards to magazines to TV to Internet to other people living as examples that create this unconscious urge to be like them! They are the ultimate consumers! They are "do-gooders" who tend to make the biggest impression on others. Why? Because on the outside, they make it look like they have the perfect life, and because they are average, with average jobs, average paychecks, etc, their lives seem totally doable! Anyone can be like them and be living the dream life with their family. All you have to do is go shopping and start buying every best rated product on the market and the rest will follow! It's completely psychological, the way people live. They actually think they want to live that way, but really it's because they are being influenced to live that way by greater powers of indoctrination carefully placed into society for that specific reason to manipulate our choices. And then they say that we're "free" and chuckle under their breath because they know that most people will fall for the traps of influence.
It's interesting to find that when I tried to find groups of like minded people who saw this too, they described a moment of "awakening" where they suddenly realized they were slaves to the system. I felt that too when I started to look into it deeper. But as I said, I've always kinda felt a little off, as if my subconscious was trying to tell me something. Then I wonder, who's to say everyone doesn't have that feeling buried somewhere deep inside themselves?
Of course, the kicker to this whole thing is that most people who read this will think I'm off my rocker insane. But in fact, just because you're among the majority, does not automatically make you correct. My favorite saying is "Just because it's normal doesn't make it right". So, if you think I'm insane, remember that hypnotherapy is a pretty good business, and the idea of hypnotizing a person is subconsciously manipulating their mind to believe something they didn't necessarily believe before. Given that it's fairly successful, I think I can safely say that while I may be in the minority here, I am not the crazy one.
What is more fulfilling than being a sheep and living the highly glorified average lifestyle? Well, how about being yourself and getting in touch with your true self instead of doing what everyone else is doing this year? Listen to your inner soul. Push passed all the propaganda and find what truly feels right and really makes YOU happy (not what makes your BFF or mother-in-law happy)! I found that getting back in touch with nature, the way things were meant to be, was the easiest way to connect with my true self. It can be a hard battle, because putting your old life and all your old desires behind is tough, since it means putting behind you almost all the things you were used to, but it's so incredible to be honestly free from outer influence, and know that I am awake, and living to achieve a real dream now, not one put in place by Martha Stewart.
