Our Objective: Become Parents!

We created this site to help us afford the medical treatment needed to have a baby after all other money making avenues had been explored.  While we continue to work at saving our hard earned pennies, and apply for loan after credit card, month after year, these things just aren't enough to pay for the incredible costs of in-vitro fertilization (IVF).  It's been a 7 year journey down infertility road, and the only exits are IVF or adoption--both of which cost (financially and emotionally) exactly the same.  Desperate times call for desperate measures, as the old saying goes, so we're trying to raise the funds for treatment in every way possible.  We thought this website would be a great way for people to help by allowing them to donate through a secure Paypal button.  We're not asking for $10,000--although that would just about cover it. Anything you can give is greatly appreciated.  Even $5! 

It may seem selfish to some, but we feel it's only natural to want to have children.  So many people who were able to conceive naturally tend to take for granted their miraculous ability to have children.  The one gift that our infertility journey has taught us is never to be ungrateful or take for granted the lives of children.

When you feel the world is against you in every possible way, it’s very psychologically hard on you.  When you learn you are infertile, and the one thing you knew for certain you wanted in the world is something you can’t have, you grieve.  It’s the same kind of grief one might feel after learning they have a vastly debilitating and fatal disease.  That's a scientific fact.  Only we grieve for the life of our child that has yet to even be conceived. This pain is a constant throbbing in your very soul.  You carry it everywhere you go.  Social events become virtually unbearable to attend because they almost always involve children, babies, pregnant women, or even the “harmless” conversations about them.  It is not that these people are cruel in any way, and you're not jealous of them.  Jealousy is the desire for petty, unnecessary, useless nonsense.  These pangs go beyond mere jealousy.  These things simply hurt.  Just the very thought of babies or anything remotely related brings on an ache so indescribable, that we, ourselves don’t know how to deal with it.  What you would feel is sadness that the people in your life will never know what it’s like not to be able to have children, and mostly that the likelihood of them understanding what you are going through is extremely slim.  You feel alone and out of place, like you can no longer relate to anyone you used to.   Only hope keeps you going, and the love and understanding of your spouse.